Being a winner in life really just means learning how to grow as a person while creating healthy, happy relationships. The best way to do this is to create a fulfilling lifestyle filled with love and positivity. Make sure to cultivate healthy thoughts, relationships, and practices in your daily life.
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Practice thinking confident thoughts. Confidence, like many things, is a skill that can be learned. Even if you don’t start off feeling confident, the more you practice, the better you’ll get and the happier you’ll feel. Think positively about your life. When faced with an obstacle, tell yourself that you can overcome it.
Even if you’re not feeling confident, try acting confident with body language. Stand up straight while you’re walking or sitting. Avoid standing with your arms crossed. Instead, put your hands on your hips.
Just smiling, even if you force it, can help you feel instantly happier and more confident, as your brain releases endorphins.
Stop negative thinking. It’s normal to have self-doubts, but you can overcome them. Every time you start having negative thoughts about yourself, stop yourself and re-frame the thought into a positive or neutral one. For example, if you find yourself thinking “I am so worthless,” think instead, “I am really valuable to myself and others.”
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Encourage yourself to keep learning. Never stop educating yourself throughout your life. It will keep your brain sharp, lower your risk for diseases like Alzheimer’s, and give you interesting things to discuss with other people. Start with subjects that are interesting to you, such as video game design or historical costuming.
Educate yourself about what is happening in the world: advances in science, medicine, politics, art, and current events. This keeps you in touch with what is going on.
Try to learn a new skill, such as knitting, speaking a foreign language, or understanding astrophysics.
Reading books and articles, watching the news and documentaries, or doing online tutorials are all great ways to keep learning.
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Learn from your mistakes. No matter how successful you are, no matter how healthy you are, no matter what you do or don’t do, you’re going to make mistakes and experience failure. Sometimes these incidents will be your fault, sometimes they won’t. It’s how you respond to them that will determine your ability to be successful at life.
Your attitude toward life shapes how you experience things. Let go of your expectations and accept life as it is. This will empower you to handle whatever comes your way.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. When you do make a mistake, ask yourself how did things go wrong, what did you learn from it, and what will you do differently next time?
To learn from your mistakes, you must first take accountability for them. Acknowledge where you went wrong so that you can fix it.
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Step outside of your comfort zone. Although it can be a little nerve-racking at first, these experiences will help you gain confidence and the resources to deal with the uncertainties of life. You might try something as intense as sky-diving or rock-climbing or something more mundane like meeting new people or speaking in front of a crowd.
Take small steps to get better. If you have social anxiety, for example, your small step could be talking to 1 unknown person a week or making 1 phone call per week. You can eventually work up to going to an event by yourself or dealing with people on a regular basis.
Try to do something that pushes you each day. Even small shifts can end up making a big difference in your life.
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Use your passion and interests to find a fulfilling vocation. Your vocation is your calling in life that gives you meaning. Sometimes, this is your profession, but it can also be a hobby, a passion, or a side project. Study your interests, passions, and hobbies. Use those to guide you towards a vocation that is meaningful to you.
Think about your values—what really lights you up and gets you excited? What do you want to be remembered for? Then, try to figure out what you can do that aligns with that.
If your job isn’t your passion in life, try to think of all the positive benefits of it. Make a list of all the good things about your job, such as having coworkers you like, making a difference in people’s lives, or making enough money to buy a house.
Don’t feel like you necessarily have to make big changes all at once. You can still incorporate your passion into your daily life. For instance, if you love acting, you might not be able to quit your job and move to Hollywood, but you might find that you enjoy acting in a local community theater.